Personal Growth 15 min read

Being Present and What It Brings

Derrick Reeder · May 27th, 2025

Think about the feeling you get when you walk into a room. Sometimes it's light and welcoming, other times it feels heavy or tense. That's energy - and even if we can't see it, it's real. It shapes our mood, our relationships, and the way we experience life. Over time, I've realized how much of that energy is tied to our own awareness, our consciousness.

To me, consciousness is just being aware - of what we're thinking, feeling, and doing. It's like an inner lens that colors everything we see. And the more in tune I've become with it, the more I've noticed how it affects the energy I carry and share with others.

Paying attention to my thoughts and being mindful of how I move through the world has brought me a deeper sense of clarity and purpose. Whether I'm alone in a quiet moment or rushing through a busy day with my family, I've started asking myself: Are my actions really reflecting who I am? Am I showing up with intention?

Life moves fast. It's easy to get swept away in distractions or routines. But the moments that stay with me are the ones where I slow down and really connect - with myself, with the people around me, with the present. Being grounded doesn't mean I'm calm all the time; it just means I'm aware. Especially in hard moments, that awareness helps me stay centered. As a parent, I see it clearly - my kids may not always understand my words, but they definitely feel my energy. That's made me more intentional, not just with how I respond to them, but with how I show up overall.

One of the biggest things I've come to value is authenticity. There's something powerful about being fully yourself in any situation. I think we all sense when someone isn’t being real - it creates tension, even if no one says it out loud. When our words and actions line up with what we truly feel, it invites connection. But when we're acting from ego, trying to be someone we're not, the energy shifts. It’s exhausting. I've spent enough time around people wearing masks to know how draining that can be. And I've also learned that by simply being myself - fully, openly - I can give others the space to do the same. That kind of honesty is contagious.

Self-awareness isn't always easy, but it's essential. It's more than just knowing what you like or dislike - it's understanding how your inner world spills into your outer one. The way we think, the way we react, the energy we bring into a room - all of it creates a ripple. That's why I try to pause before responding, especially when I’m triggered or stressed. I don't always get it right. But the practice itself - checking in with where I'm at - helps me show up more consciously. And I've learned that not everyone is going to think or feel the way I do. That's okay. We all carry different stories. Remembering that makes it easier to lead with compassion instead of judgment.

Relationships are deeply influenced by energy. People can sense what's real. When your energy aligns with your truth, trust comes more naturally. But when something's off - when you're forcing it or hiding behind a version of yourself, it creates distance. I've found that staying grounded in my own energy helps me stay calm, even in conflict. I try to see beyond reactions, to remember that most of us just want to be seen, heard, understood. Beneath all the layers and defenses, that desire connects us.

In the end, it really does come back to presence. Being aware of your thoughts, your energy, your impact. Each day brings chances to pause, to realign, and to live a little more intentionally. When we're true to ourselves, we naturally make room for others to be true, too. And that's where deeper connection happens - when we stop performing and start showing up, honestly.

If there's one practice I've come to lean on, it's the simple act of checking in. Even just once a day: What am I feeling right now? Where is my energy going? Am I in alignment with what matters most to me?

Because whether we realize it or not, our internal state is writing the script for how we experience life. And if we're not paying attention, our unconscious mind is doing the writing for us.

Being present, grounded, and real - it's a daily practice. A gift, really. And it's one I'm learning to embrace, one moment at a time.